THE HIKAYAT

Force child with various take lessons and course, doesn't guarantee automatic child so clever. That happened can on the contrary, our child is frustration, even can kill self like done Rani, student in elementary school which aged 10 year.

" homework again? Don't mom, I have many home works from school, " whine Joshua to the take lessons teacher mother. Bright he is objection. Within a week Joshua are 10 year that the age must follow four take lessons kinds. Even less now at the school there lesson addition clock, so that he doesn't has time play. Finally, in place his take lessons often bicker with the friend. So sensitive, tempted a little angry direct. At school even also attention towards instruction process decreased and often forget to make homework (homework).

With affection reason, everything done parents so that successful the child. Who’s parents not want the child so best at school and has sparkle future? So, it is not strange if all parents force child follows various take lessons and activity. But, otherwise guarded, this matter even can be boomerang.

That boomerang is ever strikes hard to return parents Rani manner consequence self. This is a tragic story are befalls Rani (student elementary school: farewell school, farewell alive; time newspaper, 23 Augusts 2007).

Class student four elementary school aged 10 year that Singapore origin, end the alive with free fall from a apartment at level five. He is found to sprawl killed with wear T-shirt and the school uniform shorts. Student that belong to clever at that school very stress when get ranking third.

Thirsty affection

" decision to kill self that done child actually statement form that them actually want accommodation.

Try to correct reading diary bears date 1 May 2007 that made by almarhumah Rani,

" Horeee! This is labor day! Both there is no school! And do you know what is the meaning (of) that? Both there is no homework! I am very happy! Although miss also in teachers and friends, I am really enjoy this school holiday, because both there is no school. Actually not also so. I think, so reason predominantly my parents doesn't work, and they reside in myself mess! We can glad, go out together! Isn't it true that this is genuinely great? "

From the article, appear Rani felt solitude and thirsty affection with warmth from the parents.

Marking that Rani experience stress heavy actually can be detected the old person. Before the departure, he often sigh to in the father, that he has homework. Every day he must do three homework.

Around 25 minutes before met death, he ever ask to the assistant about there not it his possibility can truant school that day.

Follow period development, students at elementary school more and more that come along extension course outside their formal education. That children is ordered their parents for English course, paint, or learn piano. While that sit at seat Senior High School also must come along extension course to prepare test enter college.

While they still necessary play. Their brain not yet can be loaded by heavy matters. Finally, children total that do to kill those pressures consequence self more day more increases. They jump from schoolhouse or hang self. Fail to braid connection with friend other kind even also can be primary factor kill self. They say, number kills self in adult age increases. The cause: jobless.

When does passion learn your child begin to decreased, difficult concentration, often ill, and as it, there his possibility experiences depression learns. Even less if your child often says wants to kill self or found out once ever try to kill self, so must observant extra!

This is your child sign wants professional energy accommodation. What by parents to must overcome depression learn child? May be tip next can help.

Increase emotional intelligence

" to child is taught realistic way of thinking and optimistic, that once in a while value at school can rise or go down, as does well-being, if not watched over, can go down.

Manner to teach to think realistic and optimistic in child supply it with emotional intelligence (EQ, emotional quotient) early on. So that child doesn't has behavior problem at the adult age.

Watchfulness Carroll izard, ph. D. From university of Delaware at Newark show, difficult children realizes feeling they and another person, susceptible towards behavior problems and study at bigger age. Easy manner to teaches for example emotional intelligence with:

1. Emotion card

Home made card with picture that shows face expression that vary that can help child identified feeling kinds like angry or startled. Ask in your child, when does he ever feel same thing.

2. Heart precipitation

You must ready open when must child must want to tell about the school. You must can empathy towards the problem. If he doesn't like to tell, often ask every he goes school. " what happened a while ago at they school? " , " there naughty same you? " , " why you looks sullen? " , and another.

When less effective, child fishhook so that tell. Its way, narrate your tender age experience at school, both for fun or bad. May be that thing will stimulate child to will tell.

3. Read tale or book with

Look for books focus in various feeling kind, for example chicken soup for kid's soul. Choose folklore that give moral message. From those stories is child will detect that there is many people also will experience problems at school or at home. Besides, give they are with moral messages and advice endures alive to increase the moral intelligence.

4. Play character or drama

Practice performing emotional events with child. Like, feign ill, get ugly test value, or another. Entangle also brother and the friends. May be, this practice can useful when child must follow drama stage at school or moment programmed 17 August at housing.

5. Entangle child with sport activity or organization

Child will how learn to will cooperate with another person and how learn to realize different friends attitude with self. When make possible, invite them camp, to mount, forest, or coast to see sunrise and sunk. This matter also tight the connection to increase intelligence spiritual child. Mosque, church, Balinese temple, temple can you exploit for this matter.

6. Praise and child motivation

When does child get to ill judged, will give motivation that he will still can achieve value better tomorrow or test next. You even also don't be angry when he gets bad value. Try to gaze at what wrong, may be child stress or ill.

Praise, origin don't over do when success achieve accomplishment. Child must learn that has surplus and deficit. So, not may be he clever at all lessons. Perfectionist child inclined is depression is compared with child other. Inform also they are so that don't fear of making a mistake. Because also be valuable lesson to faces alive.

7. " food" provision opposes stress

Multiply vegetable and fruit in menu your children. Where necessary, always supply them with vitamin and important mineral for body. Especially vitamin c effective to chase away stress and vitamin b complex to increase brain work.

When does child felt tired, sleepy, tired, or will full to causes the breath more slower. At the (time) of such he can not think limpidly. When does breath more slower, lung doesn't can to prepare oxygen appropriate body need. Also doesn't can to take outside carbon dioxide efficiently. Final, degree carbon dioxide in blood increases.

When carbon dockside superlative, signal will be sent to brain. Brain will order lung to will take long breath and in, that is steam. Oxygen will be sipped and carbon dioxide taked as many as possible. Prepare atmosphere learns (window, fan, etc. ) support good oxygen circulation.

Besides, accustom children to many drink plain water. Respondent that canvassed at university Bristol at English obvious can show accomplishment 10% better at numeric area after drink a cup of cold water.

8. Method learns effective

Best, teach your children are method learns effective since childhood. Can learn in a short time but can to absorb lesson eminently. Now many courses that offered method learns effective.

Method learns this adaptation from outside country. Usually, in child will be taught manner will learn with interest easy, reading quicker, idea map, and creativity. As parents, you must choose which course the curriculum most suited for child. This course wants big enough cost.

One important matter, give them honest affection. Also be effective medicine to helps child faces depression learn it. Like said by Rani, " I think, so my principal willing my parents doesn't work, and they reside in myself mess! We can glad, go out together! "

Tragic not? From now on, soon save your children with affection caress!

Teacher character in class management of vital importance especially in create study atmosphere that interesting. That is because according to principle, teacher holds two tasks all at once main problem, which is instruction and class management. Task all at once first problem, that is instruction, meant all effort helps student in achieve study aim. On the contrary, management problem related to effort to create and defend condition in such a manner so that study process can go on effectively and efficient for reached study aim.

Failure a teacher achieves study aim in proportion to with teacher disability managed class. Indicator from that failure likes accomplishment learns low pupil, disagree with standard or size limit that determined.

Therefore, class management is teacher competence of vital importance dominated in order to study process. Therefore so every teacher is demanded has ability in managed class.

Usman in one of [the] the book proposes that a condition learn optimal can reached if teacher can to regulate pupil and study tool with restrain it in fun atmosphere to achieve instruction aim. Here, how effective class management is absolute prerequisite for effective teaching and learning process creation also.

Based on opinion above, clear how does the important class management to create class atmosphere conducive by increase study quality. Class management is task and teacher responsibility to make use all potential in class by study process continuance. Matter this means every teacher is demanded professionally managed class so that created class atmosphere conducive begin from beginning up to end study.

Class atmosphere creation conducive to subsidize optimal study process demands teacher ability to detect, realize, choose, and apply to approach that evaluated effective create class atmosphere conducive in subsidize optimal study process.

At least there seven approach that can be done by teacher for class management. First, approach power that is teacher power existence in supervises student behaviour all at once apply operative norm and bidding by student so that study can go on well.

Second, approach freedom. In course of student study is given freedom to learn at class and permanent teacher supervises all student behaviour in class. Approach freedom is used to help student does activity learns well.

Third, approach recipe that done with give one list that can describe what must and what not be may be done by teacher to responses all problems or situation that happens at class. In that list be described stage by what be must be done by teacher.

Fourth, approach study. Approach this based on a assumption that in a planning and execution will prevent student behaviour problem appearance and break that problem when can not be prevented. Approach suggests teacher behaviour to prevent and stop student behaviour unfavourable with plan and good implementation lesson.

Fifth, approach behaviour change. Class management be process to change where student behaviour unfavourable be changed so that be good and good strived for defended. This matter of vital importance so that student can follow lesson well.

Sixth, approach emotion atmosphere and social connection. Approach this orientation in class management based on feeling atmosphere and social atmosphere in class as a group individual. Approach this in a mood for elucidation opinion.

Follow to approach this, class management is a process creates climate or emotional atmosphere and which are positive social connections in class. Emotional atmosphere and which are positive social connection with good connection creation between teacher with student, and between students with student.

Last, approach pluralistic. Approach this emphasized in potential, creativity and initiative teacher in controls study atmosphere. Therefore, approach pluralistic must base to face that situation.

Use approaches this in situation that may be used with two combination or three approach above, or approach other that evaluated teacher can effective in increase study quality. In word meaning, approach this more has flexible.

As appendix, there is no one approach that fit and correct for all situation. So it, approach which best to used, all base on creativity and teacher ability managed class in so many situation that sure differ also.

How does a teacher realize discipline and behaviour management forms other depend on how they see their job as a teacher and how far they believe that any child can learn? Behaviour at class and result learns many influenced by instruction quality.

Teacher dominates many factors that influence motivation, accomplishment and their student behaviour. Physical environment at class, level emotion freshmen that undergone student and communication quality delivers teacher and student be important factor that can do it or retard optimal study. Teacher responsible to various student, belong them from family doesn't can or less luck, student may be must work after school, or they are that come from ethnic minority group, religion or language or they are with difficulties or disablement learns. Boone from situation or this factor must causes education problem, but this children is may be risky gets negative school experience and not have a meaning if teacher not responsive towards need and their ability or can to use instruction and effective class strategy and accustomed to follow individual.

To decrease or cause the loss of obstacle learns and student participation is need erudition deepens about from which this obstacle origin and how and when does this obstacle appear. Important for teacher to realize economy social background and student family so that get the picture factor non academic that influence their study. Many social factors that influence to learn can not direct be changed, but this factors comprehension makes teacher in will realize lsquo; failure & rsquo; or lsquo; behaviour not suitable & rsquo; student and create environment learns that decrease not this factor effect increase. Good teacher considers this is individual challenge and professional. But, also necessary according to critical reflexives towards what is going on in class because student behaviour oftentimes be reaction from factors in school. A teacher necessary reflexive about environment has learnt that they have created and is environment this involves all children’s mobility and has a meaning. Several things whom we do as teachers can help to learn, among others even unnecessarily and may even exist that endanger! When look for explanation for the low accomplishment and behaviour problem, teacher necessary prepared beforehand remember limitedness at environment and process learns than in child self. They are necessary reflects what they teach and how do they teach.

What do they say and do at class to build comprehension between students? How do they introduce new topics? How did they connect new erudition by what known child?

Teacher inclined indicate in child weakness than admire them because efforts and enhanced (little). Too many this child’s is very lessens heart, and can cause self low feeling and failure. Teacher necessary realize this matter.

Instruction in general group activity, while study more to individual activity and not all students learns with speed same or in the same way.

Teacher necessary considering how many wisdom and practice that aim in labelling student. Watchfulness about interaction teacher and student show to how teacher often behaviour differ to individual student based on in their perception self about student ability.

They are that given label ldquo; low accomplishment & rdquo; or ldquo; indolent learn student & rdquo; often get ghost of a chance compare another person to participate, and they are that looked at as ldquo; not discipline & rdquo; treated in such a manner, even when do they good behaviour. Teacher necessary reflexive in assumption and expectation they are with ask feedback from children about teaching and learning process and whereof that at class in general. All teachers must do this such as those which revealed in them what be identified student as characteristic have a certain quality in teacher, almost without exception related to teacher ability to identified them as individual by positive, treat them dispassionately and dear sirs, make lesson interesting and various, give push and say so that they believe their self and the ability.

This means that connection teacher - student and which are positive class climate is important factor in influences to how child gets experience goes. Teacher not only teach erudition and know-how, they also help student to explain to who them. From interaction everyday with teacher, child learns to detect to what them important or not, clever or slow, liked or unpopular. A teacher sends this message passes the behaviour, gesti, and words. From message that accepted this child them decides to risk participation at class activity or not. Teacher must detect that involvement not always come easily and that this need a pleasant class environment according to psychologies and trusted. Motivation to learn and to behaviour based on in interest. If teacher success stimulates taste want to know between students, they also will find fellow-feeling between student to will learn and behaviour good.

That instruction taste wants to know far child more motivating effectively than force them to do duties that they consider irrelevant and boring. Therefore interacted teacher manner with child and manner teach it that is important in prevent undue behaviour.

But, although that positive interaction efforts, behaviour problem may be still to happen and teacher must be prepared to this with various technique revolve from counselling, focus in comprehension, together overcome offish behaviour problem undue while preserves suitable behaviour. Important that teacher must always realize that behaviour undue, not the child! Can teacher see to exceed behaviour that undue and see an estimable human? With will pass this test will make teacher more can trusted, not only as teacher but also, and more important again, as honest loving human. Teacher may be too focus in what must be done when does child behaviour undue. Technique discipline often understood by teacher as something that apart from instruction technique, only used if and when does problem appear. But, class management is effective instruction integral part that prevents behaviour problem passes planning, management, and configuration activity learns better, instruction matter gift better, and student teacher interaction better, take aim in involvement optimize and student agreement in learn. Behaviour control technique or discipline in the end not too effective because technique will not push self-discipline development or child responsibility self on the action. Student not automatic be discipline in certain age or pass control or compulsion. Values and social craft must be taught and exemplified by teacher. Learn to be human that and make choices that need practice, belong to make error. Here's

Called class management and effective instruction. And that's, not only give curriculum, education aim!

Education system should centre in entrant educates, mean curriculum, administration, extracurricular activity also co curricular, the management system must be formulated and carried out for the benefit of entrant educates, not for the benefit of teacher, school or institution other. Education only concentrate in work need importance narrowly must be returned to growth importance and entrant personality development educates according to intact. Like ability for example natural existence, active positive thinking, creative, find alternative and the process is individual intact (process of becoming). Entrant educates should genuinely returned as subject (as well as object) education and rather than only object.

Progress IPTEK and global information world and communication actually want individual ripe and has character. Obvious education at old world more emphasized human is mathematical reasonable intelligent and language, but doesn't has strong character and has good moral. So important education autonomy gift in school each to determine point of view and the mission and carry out it so that produce entrant educates besides intelligent, skilful all at once has strong character. To this need energies professional, because want abilities a teacher as" artist, scientist, and technologist. "

Because more the complexes education execution in that period, so important that is a headmaster necessary has school leadership attitude (school leadership) and know-how managed education (educational management). A headmaster candidate necessary get training according to comprehensive about personality quality, school leadership and education management. Participative leadership system, delegate, opened and always see forwards without forget evaluation wanted in the present day this so much. Strategy that used optimal all school components likes entrant immediacy educates, motivation and school hard effort, family support and society (school committee). If tool, entrant educates, and optimal environment, augmenting with process learns to teach effective, dynamic and have a certain quality, so graduate quality such as those which supposed in point of view and mission and another.

At period to come educators (teacher) should enthusiastic and skilled to detect self photo at class. Class watchfulness should done to see self photo as educator, teacher, and as individual. How does entrant evaluation educate about the teachers, as educator, teacher and also as a individual. Also necessary increase academic level and professionalisms (economy social load often be obstacle, so need to increase welfare). Effective teacher has superiority in teaches (facilitator); in connection (customer and communication) with entrant educates and school communities member; and also customer and the communication with other party (parents, school committee, related side); administration aspect as teacher; and attitude professionalisms. Attitudes professional that cover among others: willing to repair self and willing to follow period development. So important also build which is positive work ethic that is: respect job; watch over self-respect in carry out job, and willing to serve society. In relation to is important also performance/appearance a professional: physically, intellectual, social customer, personality, values and spirituality with can to be motivator. In short necessary performance quality enhanced existence professional, voluminous and collaborative by humanizing according to intact every entrant educates.

Necessary also carried on a class management new perspective. Class management not merely in technical matters or concern strategy merely, but more concern entrant individual factor educate exist in class. Class management can not be released from aspect human from study and instruction. Class management that emphasized in how managed individual more help and support individual development, entrant individual good educates also individual the teacher. Class that managed at this rate, entrant will educate not only bloom intellectualities, but also affective aspect, konatif, and socialites. Because learn obvious not only limited to intellectual aspect but also feeling aspect, attention, know-how and creativity. Process learns only effective if there customer and certifiable communication between educator and entrant educates and entrant educates with entrant educate. Teacher doesn't submit quality and a live meaning in every subject nursemaid to child, will not many have child personality development. Class or school activity should be atmosphere that arouse and enthrals for self exploration activity and find self identity. So instruction integrally must relate to value education.

True education a human individual construction effort to achieves aim final (connection behaviour with god and self) and all at once for society (connection behaviour with own self, family, society and vicinity nature). In a word said that value education a where does somebody find the meaning as individual at the (time) of where does certain values give meaning in the alive road. This process concerns" trip aims to own self depth" , nudge human self inmost parts, like reflection power, introspection, analysis and ability finds own self and how does big self price. Value education concerns power domain creates, taste and karsa, nudge entire somebody experiences. Important factors in first class management the teacher factor, then discipline factor, then evaluation or evaluation for entrant educates.

Approach humanist study looks at human as independent free subject to determine the alive direction. Human full responsibility on the alive self and also on another person alive. Approach corrected used in study humanist dialogist approach, reflective, and expressive. Dialogist approach invite entrant educates to think with according to critical and creative. Educator doesn't act as teacher but facilitator and dialog partner; reflective approach invite entrant educates to dialogism with their self; while approach expressive invite entrant educates to express self with all the potential (realization and actualizes self). Thereby educator doesn't take over responsible, but merely help and accompany entrant educates in course of self development, attitude determination and choose of the values that struggle.

One of [the] matter necessary considering in hold education renewal formulation base education philosophy, mission and point of view every work unit, strategy and planning to achieve aim many help and be guide in activity execution everyday. Without that is all, an education institution will work random and will not know what will be worn to will measures success and failure all existing activity. Education system colour and the management very depending from base philosophy, point of view and mission that has by a education institution. Execution consistently and consistent by itself will form identity that distinguish with school institution other. This matters also that will give spirit are felled and move all education executants to achieve optimal aim. Necessary also built a management organization culture clear and completely so that all can work proactively, precede prima facie, always see final purpose, co-operative, think of winner, apprehend beforehand and then to understand and synergy. All education communities’ members should move from dependence passes by independence aims interdependent.